I Refuse to Be One of Those Women Who Puts Up with Emotional Abuse for Years

I got married 12 months ago, and I am already divorced. It was my first marriage, and I plan to lead the single life for quite some time. It didn’t take me long to look at Colton CA apartments to get a place so that I could move out of our home and into something of my own as quickly as possible. I don’t think my ex-husband believed that I would do it, but I warned him that I would. He should have known better, and it’s his problem that he refused to get help.

Sometimes I run across people who are absolutely appalled that someone would get a divorce. Their opinion is that people should stay together at all costs to “work things out.” I already tried working things out, and he refused to try to work with me on our relationship. Other people’s opinions don’t matter to me much, especially when they aren’t the one who has to live with a truly problematic person. I’m not sure how long people expected me to try to make things work, but I was not going to lose more time in a bad situation any longer.

When I meant my ex-husband, he was mostly a gracious person. I did see some wag, but I thought we could work them out. The flags were that he was aggressive with me at times. After we married, it escalated and he began threatening me. I suggested counseling, and he refused. I tried reasoning with him, and he refused to listen. When it continued, I told him that I was getting a lawyer and moving out. I was out of there within 24 hours. It surprised him, and it was ony then that he said he would try to change. But knowing that he had refused many times previously and only decided to care when he knew I was strong enough to walk meant that he’d blown his many previous chances.